Rope pictures

So yeah, not letting me put the pictures in the last post.... so here is just a smathering of pics I took from the class, some of me, most of my roommate with different ties.

Rope Bondage Classes!!!!

So you all know I took bondage classes at Passional's Sexploratorium with the fantabulous Ms. Klawdya Rothschild. She was fantastic. She was patient, articulate, knew her shit, and had a fun personality that kept the two hour classes interesting. My only real complaint? She's fucking distracting. Look at this girl, she is hot, and frankly, her low cut shirt and tendency to lean over to check

elust #3

HNT Courtesy of 13MessagesWelcome to e[lust] - your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you're looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you're going to find it here. Want to be included in the next edition? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site's sidebar and subscribe to the

Ask me things!

I'm just popping in before the the big rope bondage class post (with pictures of my sexy room mate tied up in his underwear!) to let you know, that in an attempt to make myself as accessible as possible I've set up a formspring account. You can submit questions anonymously or by logging in through the site, and you can do it right on that convenient little sidebar option. So ask me anything I

Snowpocolypse

So I posted yesterday that I had so much fun at my bondage classes. This is still true, but after taking the classes Friday and Saturday, I was even more excited for the class I had signed up for on Sunday. I have wanted to try suspension since I first saw my first example of Shibari over 5 years ago. The idea of just letting go and letting my body relax in the air. I've always had the desire to

Lookie What I Can Do!

Hey everyone, I took a couple bondage classes this weekend (I have another one tomorrow.) I'll write everything up for next week with links and picks of my fabulous roommate letting me practice on him, but for now, just check out what I had to put myself back into when I got home from Self Bondage class.

Titty fucking

So in a post about titty fucking, there is one thing that has to be established right off the bat. I have big boobs. They used to be huge boobs, but I've lost some weight and switched birth control and they have shrunken down to a respectable D cup. I've heard titty fucking is possible with small boobs, but I have no idea. I've never been interested in doing it with a strap on, and I have no

Review: Ben Wa Balls by Nasstoys

So J, the poly girl that I occasionally play with, was roped into having a nookie party at her house. I will be reviewing the party itself soon, but for now, I'm reviewing one of the items I bought while there. I've been looking for a Kegel Exerciser for a while, but the ones I have seen in store were either too big for me, too small, or were the kind you were required to lie down and use (and

E lust #2

Photo courtesy of Twisted Monk (photo credit elizabethraab.com) Welcome to e[lust] - your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in the next edition? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in

Wishlist

I read about this holiday wishlist meme on Hey epiphora's site and thought it was a really nice idea. I'm working on granting a few of her wishes, and decided to create a list of my own. Step One- Make a post (public, friendslocked, filtered…whatever you’re comfortable with) to your LJ or Myspace or Blog. The important thing is to make sure these wishes are things you really, truly want.- If you

Does this shit happen to other people? Part 3

So it has become a running gag among my friends that I am "the worst lesbian ever." I'm inclined to agree, one since I don't really define as a lesbian, or really anything for that matter, and two because I will fully admit to having waaay too many men in my bed to call myself a self respecting lesbian. But in general the argument against my "lesbianism" runs as follows (keep in mind that yes,

Become a fan on facebook!

Look at me being all techie. I made myself a little facebook company page so now, my lovely readers, you can become a fan on facebook. I'm not sure what exactly I'm going to be putting up on it yet, but I'll love some discussion forums or feedback from fans. If you join, drop me a line and tell me you're from the blog (I had like 85 fans before I put a single word on, so apparently no, becoming a

Links Galore 3

Yes, it's that time again when Ms. Cleofaye is a little overwhelmed with life and giving you some links to explore while I take a little bit of a break. First some quick admin updates. 1. I think you probably noticed, but I posted the first addition of e[lust]last week. It's similar to Sugasm, which I did before. I'm actually a volunteer and I help put it together. 2. Due to both grad school

Cyber sex

Just a quick aside before we get started. I usually won't count an e[lust] post as one of my posts for the week, but with going home to my parent's house, things were a little crazy this week. I still love you all I assure you. I try to keep to my schedule of twice a week as best as I can and will continue to do so, but just to warn you, things may get slightly erratic around Christmas. Anyway...

[e] lust #1

Hey guys, I volunteered to help put together e[lust], a new blog roll for sex bloggers. I submitted as well and was voted one of the top picks! Here's the entire post, check some of them out, I really enjoyed the variety we got. So here it is, the premier addition of e[lust]! HNT Courtesy of Coy Pink Welcome to the first edition of e[lust]! Below is your source for inspirations of lust and

Transgender Day of Rememberance

Yesterday (November 20th) was Transgender Day of Remembrance, to honor all those who have been killed for being gender variant in some way. All day I tried to write something about it. I really wanted to write an insightful, interesting, call to action blog. I wanted to inspire. But the fact is, I don't know what to say. I don't understand it. I get not understanding gender variance is something

PSA: Fucking him isn't fucking the patriarchy

Hey guys, life is a little crazy at the moment, so I'm a little strapped for time. I decided to cross post some of my entries from Cuntlove here because 1. I'm really proud of them and 2. I've really enjoyed some of the discussion they've created (Also even my best friend/roommate doesn't usually read my entries from there, so I can't expect you all to either). I'll be posting something original

Spicing it up: Bondage Materials

I've talked briefly about bondage, mainly it's use in sensation play and mentioning the fact that I have experience with it, bu today we're going to get into the nuts and bolts of bondage. We're talking about materials. Before we talk about what to do with bondage, how to tie someone up, or all the fun safe word limit discussion that we'll have, first we have to know what we are working with.

The Older Couple

I wrote earlier about being propositioned for a threesome via twitter. I said that I would keep you updated if I decided to go for it. I agreed at the time, but she lives in DC, and her boyfriend lived in NYC, so coordinating all of us getting together was difficult. She was going to be in the city this past weekend, and I had volunteered to come up for it about a month ago. However, she and her

Spicing it up: Foot Worship

Today I want to discuss a topic that I find to be a lot of fun, but can be really polarizing. Some people love feet. Some people are completely disgusted by feet. I am fine with both camps and have had sexual partners on both sides of the extreme. I have no dependency on foot worship as a sexual practice, but it can be something fun to add to the mix if both partners are into it. Ever since I was

PSA: Female ejaculation: Learning to love the squirt

I'm going to tell you guys that I'm not the only to have written about this subject. The lovely Olga at Cuntlove has done an extensive 8 part series on female ejaculation over at her site (and mine, in case you forget, I blog there every wed with posts about feminism, kinky sex, and how those things relate to each other. We've had some pretty interesting conversations and I'm really proud of my

Spicing it up: Costumes

It's halloween today kiddies, and I figured before I go out in way too slutty clothes and get a little schnockered, there would be no better time to talk about the role costumes can have in the bedroom. To be honest, I've never been a huge fan of costumes, I spent a whole lot of time getting comfortable with who I am, and god help the person who doesn't agree that I'm fab, cause they're never

Anal Sex Part 2: The Ins and Outs of Butt Sex

So I've been thinking about this post for a while, and I know it's going to be on the longer side. There is a lot to discuss when talking about how to have anal sex, and I don't want to leave you without any important information. I don't want you to get lost in sea of never ending text, so I'm dividing this into things you need to know before, during, and after. So if you're with me so far,

Loving your local sex store

(First of all kiddies, I want to let you know that I've put in paperwork to become and affiliate at passional. This will get me a discount there and I might be getting free toys to review at some point. I'm going to be talking about sex stores in general, but I will be praising passional as my home store. If, knowing I'm affiliated with them, you want to take what I say with a grain of salt, I

Anal Sex Part 1: Myths and Facts

I've already said that I'm a big fan of things in my butt. P, the first ex, was very into butt play, knew what he was doing, and made me love it right along with him. I'm generally pretty paranoid, so I was very scared of sex for a long time. Butt sex was something that wouldn't get me pregnant, so it was much easier to convince me to give that up first (and yes, I got him tested before we did

The problem of cum

We have multiple discussions of sex with boys, with one thing that's been missing. When you have sex with boys (and yes, I pretty much always call them boys because the fact is regardless of age I have never met a boy who was completely mature, not the first one, who was 12 years older then me with 2 kids, not even my dad)you have to deal with cum. First, some cum basics. When a guy orgasms, he

Difficulties

Sorry, kiddies, but the entry is going to be late today. I would apologize, but I'm getting ready for the beyond fantabulous Kate Bornstein to come speak at our local LGBT bookstore, Giovanni's room, which with the closing of Oscar Wilde in NYC is now the oldest LGBT store in the country. They are currently trying to raise funds to reconstruct an outside wall that was deemed unsafe, and costs

Strapping it on Part 2: Doin the Deed

So you've picked out the perfect strap on... it's cute, it's hot, it's sexy, and it's all yours, and you can't wait to use it right? Right. But the question is, how do you want to use it. To talk about strap on sex, there is an important component we have to discuss. What about strap on sex appeals to you? Is it just a fun way to get off your partner hands free, or is there more to it for you?

Does this shit happen to other people? (Part 2)

So I have a uber flirty online persona. It's always been that way, it's just who I am. I have a twitter account.... I think most of you knew that already, since I think that's where a lot of my readers come from, but that's besides the point. The other day one of my twitter friends stated she was free for the weekend and needed to pick who to have sex with. I, of course, offered my services,

PSA: Coming out

So national coming out day is sunday. I thought, in honor of this momentous occasion, I would talk a little about coming out, and leave a few closets of my own behind. I don't talk about myself too much in this blog. I mean sure, you guys probably know more about my vaginal anatomy and sexual bloopers than most of my ex's, but in terms of who I am, I tend to stay deliberately vague. There's a

Admin updates

Hey kiddies, I have a couple quick things that I need to let you know about. 1. I'm coming up on what will probably be some of the last regular how to blogs. There will be plenty of kinks to explore, but in terms of the basics, we're coming up on the end. That means the format will probably be changing a bit. I'm thinking that I'm going to start going to one kink or how to early in the week and a

Vaginal sex part 3: Doggy and Wildcard

Ok, so we've gone over the basics of vaginal sex, and a few positions, but we're not done yet, so off we go into the land of heterosexual vaginal sex for more positions and tips. Doggy style (Yes, I know the technical name for this is "rear entry" who uses that shit, Do you really think you're going to turn anyone on by getting close to their ear, lips parted seductively, and whispering "I want

Links Galore 2

I know I know, you're saying Cleofaye! A crappy links post? That's like those clip shows sitcoms put on to not have to write new content. Indeed it is kiddies, indeed it is. As per usual, heterosexual, vaginal sex has me staring at the screen blankly. I will power through by tomorrow night at the latest I promise, but here's something to hold you over until then. As you know, I scour the

Sugasm #174

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #175? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.This Week’s Picks5 things I have learned from customers last week at the adult store“Attractive men typically buy the

Review: Feeldoe

Today we're going to talk about my experiences with the Feeldoe a "strapless strap on" dildo. There are a lot of reasons I picked the feeldoe. 1. It's silicone (though it is available in acrylic as well). I've discussed the benefits of silicone before, but just to recap, here is why it's fantastic. They don't have phthalates (Although people say you can be exposed to them for a small amount of

Strapping it on Part :1 picking a strap on

Strap on sex is one of the hottest things I've ever done. There is something about the ability to fuck someone else that is completely appealing to me. I'm a little excited that it's going to be our topic of conversation for the next couple nights. First, to clarify, we're talking about girl on girl strap on sex here. We will talk about strap on sex with boys (pegging) but that's fodder for

Trans girl sex: I'm a clumsy asshole

(As per my last post, I consulted B before posting it, and she told me to "have a ball", so here's my infamous, how I broke a penis story)So I didn't intend for it to be insane anecdote that only happens to cleofaye week, but I've been planning this entry for weeks, and that whole riding crop phone number thing was just way too good not to blog about. Right now, we're going to have a quick

Moral delimma

So I had a post all ready for tonight, but I'm having second thoughts about posting it. I need to talk to the other person involved, I think before I put it out there. I'm sorry for the delay, I just don't want to hurt anyone in my attempt to educate the masses. Love you kiddies, and I will be posting the entry as soon as I converse with the ex it involves, and if it's not before then, I will

Does this shit happen to other people?

So I'm just popping in for a quick story, I will be posting a longer normal post either today or tomorrow, but I came home from work today and had an experience I had to share. I've been having problems with my roof leaking pretty much since I moved in. They come, they fix it, it works for a while, then a month later it's dripping again. I've gotten used to people in my room. I always come home

Vaginal Sex part 2: Missionary and Girl on Top

So we've talked about vaginal sex and what it means and what consequences it can have a length, so it's time to talk about the fun part. Sex can be one of the most fun things to do in bed. There's tons of variety and a range of attitudes to explore. Sex can be dirty (in a good way), kinky, and rough, or it can be slow, sensual and incredibly intimate. I will admit, I held off a really long time

Work it girl! Kegels and you

So it's time to talk about a girl's best friend, the Kegel muscles. The pubococcygeus (PC) muscles' benefits were discovered by Dr. Arnold Kegel. However, most doctors don't talk about them except in cases of childbirth and urinary incontinence. This, honestly, is a travesty. Regular exercise of the Kegel muscle can lead to stronger, easier to achieve orgasms.The PC muscles control the pelvic

Vaginal sex part 1: PSA: be prepared

Ok, here it is, The first of what is going to be at least 2 possibly more entries on plain old vaginal sex. Honestly, I've been dreading this entry for weeks. I couldn't figure out why until tonight. Everyone talks about vag sex. It's the default that everyone thinks of when someone says the word "sex." It's the end all and be all of every hetero-normative, male orgasm centric, completely crap

Psychosexual: Fetishes

In my never ending attempts to keep this blog, relevant, interesting, and fun to write, I'm introducing a new category into my Thurs/Fri wild card spot, psychosexual. It's going to be a discussion on psychology and sexuality, how they affect each other, and how they are used or misused. I don't talk about myself too much on this blog (you know, outside of my sexual proclivities), but I'm

Links galore

This is a little off my usual routine, but I've been spending the past hour or so, that was supposed to be on writing, horking my guts up for no good reason that I can figure out. I'll be back up and posting my regular snarky sex commentary soon, but I didn't want to leave you guys completely empty handed. I've been collecting the best sex links from around the net.... and here they are. For the

Sugasm #173

So guys, I didn't win the blogger vote for this week's sugasm, but I'm posting the links to the winners as promised. This Week’s PicksA Hot Fuck in a Parking Lot“We got more daring and soon clothes were a hindrance to our insistent hands.”I Think I’d Rather Misbehave“I bet the secret thrill of this has your cock already climbing to attention.”The Painter“He says something, small talk, and I

Admin type updates

Just a quick warning to everyone. I've been trying to get the word out on the blog a bit, and I've joined a sex blog group called "Sugasm" that takes everyone's best posts for the week, rates them, picks 3 winners then sends out the links for all the blogs involved. I thought I would give it a shot and submitted the Anal play entry. To be involved I'm required to post the results with all the

Sex Review: Bullet Vibrator

I have a confession to make up front. I am not a fan of vibration. I think I'm the only woman I know who would me more then happy without a vibrator ever coming near my pussy, ever. However, I know that I am the extreme exception, and not the rule. Most women love vibration and prefer it to any other kind of sensation when masturbating. With that said, I've enjoyed playing with vibration with

Anal play: Rimming

So the obvious progression from fingering someone's ass is licking their ass, however, I'm aware that rimming is not a common practice, at least in the heterosexual community. I've also found that rimming is pretty polarizing. Most people either love the way it feels, or hate it. I will admit that I come down on the hating it side of the fence. I'm always willing to give it another try with

Lube 101

Lube is one of the most important things (the most important being protection of all sorts of course) to have in your "drawer;" you know the one by your bed with all your sexual goodies in it. It can be your best friend, but shopping for it can be overwhelming. There are dozens of options out there, and it can be hard to know what you're looking for. Here's a breakdown of the pros and cons of

Anal play: Fingering

So.... We've officially started, I think I just crossed the line away from vanilla sex for the first time since starting this blog. It was only a matter of time, I pride myself on being one kinky bitch, but I just want to make sure you're all prepared. Are you buckled in? Because it's going to be a fun ride. Personally, anal (which, by the by, is one of my least favorite words in the english

Abstinence: The best sex you ever had

Don't worry, don't freak out. I'm not changing my tune. I'm still the same sex lovin' girl you've come to expect. And lord knows I'm not really one to talk about abstinence, but the fact is I wanted to put some ideas out there before moving on to the up coming how to blogs on penetrative sex. I think that abstinence as a concept and especially as a school curriculum is a little (or a lot)

Eating out: A diner's guide

Tehe! Do you love that title? I'm totally proud of it. It makes me giggle, and as I'm trying to impart to all my loving readers out there (or at least the vast audience of loving readers that I write to in my head) sex is fun! Don't take it, or yourself too seriously. So... on to the good stuff. We're here to talk about eating pussy. Something that takes a bit of finesse, a lot of practice, and a

Spicing it up: Sensation play

Now, every so often, along with kick ass general sex tips and sex related reviews, I'm going to talk about things slightly outside of vanilla. I'm a big advocate of trying everything you're comfortable with, and providing anyone who wants to try any information they need to make themselves comfortable. These are going to be the "spice it up series." I'm starting out pretty basic, and as time goes

Blowjobs

Blowjobs.... Now we're moving into territory that is much more comfortable for me. I have an oral fixation. I like to eat, I like to chew gum, suck on mints, I pretty much hate having an empty mouth, something my sexual partners generally benefit from. I'm what's called a top, which means I find getting other people off more satisfying then getting off. (weird I know, but yes we exist I swear),

PSA: Pussy love

Women notoriously hate their own pussies. It's a problem. They're self conscious and inhibited when it comes to being seen, or god forbid being gone down on. This is RIDICULOUS, but understandable. I used to be one of those women myself. If it's not obvious already, I've gotten over it. I'm going to try to keep this entry brief, but it's a subject close to my heart. For my senior thesis, I wrote

Fingering

Ok, so we've covered the basics of handjobs, I feel like you all know what's next, Pussy!!!! But first a note on terminology. I'm all for using clinical terms and such, but I personally just don't like the words vulva and vagina, they're too clinical for me. There's no fun in saying the word vagina. I just reminds me of those horrible high school health classes in which the only thing a girl's

PSA: Partner trust and power play

(After the start of a blog post, which gave me a lot to think about, I decided that as well as all the fun we will have here, with the how to's, the reviews, and the kink 101's, there will be the occasional completely serious and, in my opinion, important posts. I'm going to label these PSA's, so you'll know before hand, and feel free to skip them if that's not what you're here for, but I do

Hand jobs

Ok, now we're going to be talking about penises. Not my favorite subject, but one I'm pretty well versed in. However, today, we're talking about handjobs. Like kissing, this isn't really my forte, but I have done it. I don't touch any penis I wouldn't put in my mouth (or various other orifices), so I tend to skip the handjob phase of things, but that's just me. I have had some fun experiences

Sex review : glass dildo

So.... My first sex toy review, I'm so excited. I figured there was no better way to launch my sex toy reviews then by reviewing the first sex toy I ever purchased, a glass dildo. This was many years ago ( about 2004 or there abouts) when I bought it, and despite my best effort and google skills, I haven't been able to locate the exact model I bought. The closest thing I found was here. I got my

Making out

So.... This is a how to blog after all, so here I am, in all my glory to share what I've learned about making out, which I'm defining as fooling around that involves everything above the waste. First I'll disclose that I'm am no where near an expert on this part of sex. I'll be much more comfortable as we get to more x rated activities. I never really just made out with people. I've kissed the

sex etc

So here it is, the inaugural edition of my new blog for anything and everything sex and sexuality related, appropriately titled sex etc.... I am not an expert, I don't have a degree in sexuality or anything (though I have a BA in psych and my senior thesis was a 23 page paper on the female orgasm), I'm just a girl who loves sex, a lot, and according to others does it pretty well. I know that not