Spicing it up: Costumes

It's halloween today kiddies, and I figured before I go out in way too slutty clothes and get a little schnockered, there would be no better time to talk about the role costumes can have in the bedroom. To be honest, I've never been a huge fan of costumes, I spent a whole lot of time getting comfortable with who I am, and god help the person who doesn't agree that I'm fab, cause they're never

Anal Sex Part 2: The Ins and Outs of Butt Sex

So I've been thinking about this post for a while, and I know it's going to be on the longer side. There is a lot to discuss when talking about how to have anal sex, and I don't want to leave you without any important information. I don't want you to get lost in sea of never ending text, so I'm dividing this into things you need to know before, during, and after. So if you're with me so far,

Loving your local sex store

(First of all kiddies, I want to let you know that I've put in paperwork to become and affiliate at passional. This will get me a discount there and I might be getting free toys to review at some point. I'm going to be talking about sex stores in general, but I will be praising passional as my home store. If, knowing I'm affiliated with them, you want to take what I say with a grain of salt, I

Anal Sex Part 1: Myths and Facts

I've already said that I'm a big fan of things in my butt. P, the first ex, was very into butt play, knew what he was doing, and made me love it right along with him. I'm generally pretty paranoid, so I was very scared of sex for a long time. Butt sex was something that wouldn't get me pregnant, so it was much easier to convince me to give that up first (and yes, I got him tested before we did

The problem of cum

We have multiple discussions of sex with boys, with one thing that's been missing. When you have sex with boys (and yes, I pretty much always call them boys because the fact is regardless of age I have never met a boy who was completely mature, not the first one, who was 12 years older then me with 2 kids, not even my dad)you have to deal with cum. First, some cum basics. When a guy orgasms, he

Difficulties

Sorry, kiddies, but the entry is going to be late today. I would apologize, but I'm getting ready for the beyond fantabulous Kate Bornstein to come speak at our local LGBT bookstore, Giovanni's room, which with the closing of Oscar Wilde in NYC is now the oldest LGBT store in the country. They are currently trying to raise funds to reconstruct an outside wall that was deemed unsafe, and costs

Strapping it on Part 2: Doin the Deed

So you've picked out the perfect strap on... it's cute, it's hot, it's sexy, and it's all yours, and you can't wait to use it right? Right. But the question is, how do you want to use it. To talk about strap on sex, there is an important component we have to discuss. What about strap on sex appeals to you? Is it just a fun way to get off your partner hands free, or is there more to it for you?

Does this shit happen to other people? (Part 2)

So I have a uber flirty online persona. It's always been that way, it's just who I am. I have a twitter account.... I think most of you knew that already, since I think that's where a lot of my readers come from, but that's besides the point. The other day one of my twitter friends stated she was free for the weekend and needed to pick who to have sex with. I, of course, offered my services,

PSA: Coming out

So national coming out day is sunday. I thought, in honor of this momentous occasion, I would talk a little about coming out, and leave a few closets of my own behind. I don't talk about myself too much in this blog. I mean sure, you guys probably know more about my vaginal anatomy and sexual bloopers than most of my ex's, but in terms of who I am, I tend to stay deliberately vague. There's a

Admin updates

Hey kiddies, I have a couple quick things that I need to let you know about. 1. I'm coming up on what will probably be some of the last regular how to blogs. There will be plenty of kinks to explore, but in terms of the basics, we're coming up on the end. That means the format will probably be changing a bit. I'm thinking that I'm going to start going to one kink or how to early in the week and a

Vaginal sex part 3: Doggy and Wildcard

Ok, so we've gone over the basics of vaginal sex, and a few positions, but we're not done yet, so off we go into the land of heterosexual vaginal sex for more positions and tips. Doggy style (Yes, I know the technical name for this is "rear entry" who uses that shit, Do you really think you're going to turn anyone on by getting close to their ear, lips parted seductively, and whispering "I want

Links Galore 2

I know I know, you're saying Cleofaye! A crappy links post? That's like those clip shows sitcoms put on to not have to write new content. Indeed it is kiddies, indeed it is. As per usual, heterosexual, vaginal sex has me staring at the screen blankly. I will power through by tomorrow night at the latest I promise, but here's something to hold you over until then. As you know, I scour the

Sugasm #174

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #175? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.This Week’s Picks5 things I have learned from customers last week at the adult store“Attractive men typically buy the

Review: Feeldoe

Today we're going to talk about my experiences with the Feeldoe a "strapless strap on" dildo. There are a lot of reasons I picked the feeldoe. 1. It's silicone (though it is available in acrylic as well). I've discussed the benefits of silicone before, but just to recap, here is why it's fantastic. They don't have phthalates (Although people say you can be exposed to them for a small amount of